Where to go next

It has been one heck of a week for me and thankfully it's slowly coming to a close. I have had to deal with a number of issue this week, one especially that I wish never came to fruition. I am still in a lot of 'pain' over the falling out between me and the girl. I have spent the last few days (Wednesday and Thursday) talking to numerous people, reading stuff online and trying to get at grasp of the situation and it still feels awkward and I am unsure what to do.

I have never been in this situation before. In the past, when I girl didn't like me I knew it and I never put too much investment into it. If I thought there was hope, there were still signs that protected me. In this situation, it just came out of nowhere and I never expected her to react the way that she did.

The question now for me is where do I go from here. When talking to my guy friends they are telling me to move on and to just forget about her. If she is meant to be, we'll still connect down the road.

I'd love nothing more than to avoid her for a few days but we work together. I have already walked past her desk twice this morning and while we didn't make any sort of contact, I know it will happen soon.

When I talked to females, they told me I should try to fight for her but within reason. The consensus there is that considering out history, it's impossible that she just all of sudden thought this way and that she more than likely has something else on her mind and doesn't want the drama of having a boyfriend (or a male friend) in the way. I completely agree with this view.

I want to talk to her but I am just worried that I'm trying to fix things too quickly. I know that if I act too pushy it will only cause more problems but I am also worried that if I don't approach her, this might confirm her fears that I was never actually serious about all of this. I want to make things right, so hopefully I will figure out what to do. Maybe just putting the effort will be enough. I know I can't just sit around and expect things to fall into place; I must put as much as I can to show her I want her and that she needs and wants me.